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Threesome Dating: How to Find the Perfect Partner

Looking to try something new in the bedroom? The idea of having sex with another partner may be exciting, but can also seem intimidating and scary. If you’re looking to try something new, it’s important to do your research and take your time finding someone who fits into both your sex life and your relationship dynamic.


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Luckily, if you’re thinking about trying out Threesome Dating, there are some things you can do ahead of time that will help ensure you have the perfect partners when the time comes to meet them!


How To Get Started


Threesome dating isn’t a very common thing, at least not among couples and singles in urban areas. However, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. As long as you have an open mind and know what you want, finding a threesome partner or group should be pretty simple (and loads of fun). Here are some quick tips on how to get started.


1. What Do You Want From A Threesome?


Threesome dating requires a lot of legwork. You need to find someone you can trust and it’s important that your friends and family are aware of what you’re doing. Bisexual dating is becoming more popular with every passing year as people are starting to realize that attraction isn’t always in black-and-white. Finding someone who is both bisexual and down with a threesome can be hard; we’ve got a few tips on how you can make it happen. As part of our guide, we also discuss some ways that you can get into your perfect swinger outfit—who says threesomes have to mean sweatpants and flannel?


2. Are You Ready For The Commitment?


If you’re ready to step outside your comfort zone and truly experience something brand new in your sex life, a threesome dating site can be a great place to start. That said, it’s important that you’re 100% comfortable with finding a bisexual partner; if you’re not there yet, we suggest discussing this with your partner before taking any further steps towards making a commitment.


Do I Have The Right Personality For Threesome Dating?: While most people are attracted to at least one member of another couple, some people just aren’t built for three-way relationships. It takes an extremely flexible personality to date more than one person at once and keep everyone happy (especially when those people have their own relationship problems).


So make sure you know yourself well enough to answer these questions about whether or not threesome dating is right for you:

  • Am I willing to negotiate what happens with my friends/family?

  • Am I comfortable negotiating about other things like the money?

  • Can I handle having multiple relationships simultaneously?


3. Create Your Profile


First, you’ll want to create a profile that shows off who you are and what you like. This part should be fun—think about things like hobbies, travel destinations, your favorite sports teams, and books. When creating your profile, think of writing as an opportunity to tell someone everything they need to know about you in order for them to fall in love with you!


4. Communicate With Potential Partners


Many swingers dating sites and apps are geared toward couples looking to add a third person or just have fun, but finding a great third is easier said than done. Keep it all about you and your partner by keeping communication honest and open as you reach out—and stay direct about what you’re interested in. Open communication is paramount when swinging, so set boundaries with prospective partners early on; being forthright will help you avoid awkward encounters or dangerous situations that can put your partnership in jeopardy.


5. Preparing Yourself


The best way to prepare yourself for a threesome is actually before you even have one. Communicate with your partner about your interest in exploring threesomes. Try and be as open and honest as possible so that there’s no confusion once you’ve met someone who might be interested in joining you both. It’s also important that your partner understands why it’s something you want to do—the different elements (pleasure, sex, curiosity) all matter a lot.




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